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Simple Ways To Show Him You Love Him–From An Upscale Matchmaker

In order for our relationships to not only survive but also to thrive, it’s important that you find as many ways as you can of showing him you love him. The following three ideas should get you started but try to think of as many as you can:

1. Out of the blue tell him something profound that you love about him. You are the one who is best placed to do this, as you are the one who knows him like no other.

There are things that he’ll know about himself that you know. There are things he’ll know about you that you don’t. There are things neither of you will know about him yet. But there are things you’ll know about him that he won’t have appreciated in himself.

So don’t be shy in coming forward and telling him what’s most loveable about him. Boost his ego, solidify your relationship and help him feel good. Avoid, however, doing this too often as it may not sound genuine.

2. Tell him often what his good points are. Again this should sound genuine and from the heart. Tell him what you see, that you know others see (because you’ve heard it from them) and that he may or may not be aware of.

Do this especially if this is something he does to you, but not in a way that makes it sound like a ‘tit-for-tat’ game. You are one of the closest people to him, so if anyone is going to know his innermost positive points it’s going to be you.

Find excuses for highlighting these to him, and encourage him to focus on those points as often as possible. Again this is a great ego boost and one that will get him thinking positively and warmly about you whether he says this to you or not.

You also don’t have to keep these compliments for when you’re alone together. Highlight them when you’re out with other people as well so they come to appreciate him the way you do.

3. Take him for a surprise meal, to a club or other event. This can either be on a special occasion such as a birthday, or it can be just because you want this to be one of the ways of showing him you love him. Remember that you would want him to do the same for you, so taking him for a surprise meal occasionally should never be an issue for you.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker, a professional matchmaker and a matchmaker in Los Angeles.

The Top Ten Ways To Get Over A Break-Up From A Professional Matchmaker

Break-ups are not fun and its something we have all been through. Here are the top ten ways to get over a breakup and move on with your life from upscale matchmaker, Nicole Westwood.

Ten Ways To Get Over a Break-up:

1. Take a Trip: Even if it is just a weekend road trip, take a trip somewhere new and beautiful, either alone, or with friends/family.

2. Volunteer: Volunteering for a worthy cause, especially with people who maybe underprivileged or in need will help give you a new outlook on life.

3. Be Creative: Write, paint, compose, blog etc, Do whatever makes your heart sing.

4. Get an excercise regime: walking, yoga, dance, if you get moving you will not only get fit, you will also get those happy endorphins flowing.

5. Spend time with your friends and family.

6. Counseling: You may groan at this one, but if you went through a particularly bad break-up, it might be good for you to have someone to talk to.

7. Go to the Spa: A manicure, pedicure, facial or massage never did ANYONE harm or get a makeover (just don’t go overboard)

8. Get a couple of funny movies from Netflix, laughter is very healing.

9. Start dating again, might be hard, but you might meet the love of your life.

10.Reflect on what went wrong and what you have learned not to do again.

Four Ways NOT to Get Over a Breakup.

1. Don’t take revenge on your ex even though it might be what you want in the short run. Be the bigger person and move on with your life

2. Don’t binge on junk food.

3. Don’t shop to you drop: Retail therapy is fine, in small doses.

4. Don’t start dating until you feel like you are ready to.

Nicole Westwood is a professional matchmaker and a matchmaker in Los Angeles.

 


 

 

Are you Girlfriend Material–Tips from An Upscale Matchmaker

Every girl grows up dreaming of her Prince Charming, the man who is so perfect that she falls in love with him instantly and lives happily ever after.

The question is…do men do the same thing?  Does every man you meet have a vision of his perfect girl – his Princess Charming – in his head?

The answer is yes.

I know what you’re thinking – “What is this girl like?  How do I learn to be like her?  How do I become Princess Charming?”  Read on for a few suggestions on how to become perfect girlfriend material…

· Be feminine but don’t be prissy.  If he wanted to be dating someone masculine, he’d be dating a man!  Embrace your inner girly-ness and throw on a skirt and your favorite pair of heels every once in a while.

· Have a good sense of humor.  Women almost always list “A good sense of humor” as one of the top traits they want in a boyfriend.  It’s no different for men.  Relax!  Learn to take a joke, and to dish them back out.

· Accept his flaws.  Think about it – you love the fact that he tells you you’re beautiful in the mornings, or that he thinks you’re sexy even when you haven’t shaved your legs in a week, so return the favor.  So what if he sometimes leaves the seat up?  You’re not perfect – he doesn’t have to be either.

· Have a life outside of your relationship.  Don’t focus all your time and energy on your man.  He’ll start to feel stifled, and he’ll lose respect for you.  Eat dessert.  Travel.  Spend time with your friends.  Work a job you love.  Be independent and love your life (he’ll love it too, and dread not being a part of it!).

· Find balance.  Evolutionarily, men are dominant and women are submissive.  Life has changed considerably since we crawled out of the primordial ooze, but traces of the same psychology remain.  In order to feel confident and successful, a man must feel that he is in control of the things that are important to him.  At the same time, however, men don’t find weak, dependent, needy women attractive.  Be strong, but not threateningly aggressive.

· Be confident with your sexuality.  When you’re girlfriend material, you understand how to be sexy without being skanky.  Take pride in your body.  Be flirtatious.  Initiate sex.  Communicate what you want.  Be a little bit adventurous.  You are self-assured, in control, and completely irresistible!

· Don’t be needy.  Clinginess is one of the biggest turnoffs for a man.  Don’t be upset if he can’t spend time with you.  Don’t act jealous or suspicious if he mentions the name of another woman.  Don’t bombard him with text messages and phone calls.

· Work towards your dreams.  A woman who is ambitious and motivated is incredibly sexy.  Set goals and work towards them.  He’ll be impressed by your determination, and inspired to improve himself.

Follow these tips and you’ll soon become the girl he can’t bear to be without!

Nicole Westwood is a upscale matchmaker and a professional matchmaker in Los Angeles.

 

5 Tips To Attract Women–From an Upscale Matchmaker

As an upscale matchmaker, I can tell you the following five steps will help you learn how to attract women. They should be followed in the order that is suggested and with dedicated effort. By the time you finish number five, you will be ready to attract more women than you will know what to do with.

1. Become attractive to yourself. Look in the mirror and search for the good things. There is a lot there to like. The more you see in yourself that is desirable, the more women will as well. Look past the imperfections that have made you worry about yourself, these things will fade in the eyes of a woman that loves you. If you love yourself, then you will be worthy of her.

2. Put yourself in places where you will be able to find women. You cannot attract a woman who is not there. Likewise, you cannot attract women who have dismissed you time and time again. Try new places where you can start anew. Continuously search for new places to find ladies.

3. Get in touch with your inner woman. Guys have a little bit of estrogen inside of them. That is a scientific fact. You might want to deny it, but you should get to know it. Find out what you naturally know about being a woman. This will help you communicate with the ladies. They will also find you more attractive if they feel like you understand them better.

4. Make them notice you. I’m not saying that you need to be a showboat, but they should at least recognize that you’re in the room. Let me tell you a story of one time I commanded a room for the sole purpose of getting on girl to notice me. I was at friend’s wedding, and he had not asked me to give a toast. I wanted a girl there to know who I was, so I made a toast anyway. I just tried to be as confident as possible during the toast. I let my emotions run a little high so that I would look sweet. It worked really well. Later on when I talked to the girl, she remembered me from the toast. It was a good way to start a conversation. She felt like we had met before. So, be sure to be noticeable.

5. Awkward silence kill attraction. Try not to let them creep into a conversation. Keep the ball moving. You will want her to talk about herself as much as possible. Still, if a there is a silent hole that needs to be filled, don’t be afraid to tell your own life’s story. This keeps the conversation moving. Also, keep it lively. Don’t bring up anything depressing, and try to keep her from saying something depressing. You don’t want to have to pause for anything. The quicker the conversation is moving, the higher the attraction will be.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker and a matchmaker in Los Angeles.

Breaking the Ice With the Woman You Are Interested In–Tips From a Professional Matchmaker

Breaking the ice with women is all about getting the conversation flowing. Some people even utilize cheesy pickup lines to get the conversation started.

The fact is about 70% of the time the woman will know if she wants talk to you before you open your mouth. Sometimes the things you can say to be dumb and you can still succeed. Sometimes you can come out with the most incredible and witty banter, and she just won’t have it. Successful breaking of the ice is all about getting that remaining 30% going.

When will you want to break the ice with girls

Introductions are the single best way to break the ice with girls. But does not always feasible. When you get introduced to someone is like a person’s or developing for your basic character and abilities.

But most women you meet will not get a chance to be introduced to. Chances are the girls you meet and wish to talk to will been situations like this:

  • She is with her friends
  • She is standing near or around a dance floor
  • She is in line at a bank, store, restaurant etc
  • She is in a bar or club
  • She is at a party

 

So how do you break the ice with these girls

People can come up with lots of different ways to break the ice with a girl. from those cheesy pickup lines. To asking them for the time. To asking a woman questions. To pretending you think you know her from somewhere. The list goes on and on.

all of these methods to approach women will work sometimes. All of these methods to approach women will fail sometimes. Basically belt, and it comes to approaching women there only to real types of approaches. The indirect approach. In the direct approach.

The Indirect Approach:uses subterfuge. You’re going to say one thing while you mean another. Is all about using transparent excuses to try to get the girl talking. For some women this does work better. Other women will be angered because you will think they will fall for overly slick techniques.

The Direct Approach: is straightforward. At its core is very basic. You go up to the girl you want to break the ice with and start talking to her. From the beginning you’re letting her know what you want. remember for many girls they’ve already decided whether they will talk to you are not. Sometimes playing games is just wasting time and inviting trouble.

Why not try using the Direct Approach with Women

Approaching women directly, as a means to break the ice with a girl is a powerful technique if done correctly. And it is quite simple.

Just go up to the girl. Tap her on the shoulder. Touch her elbow. Look her in the eyes as you approach. Say “hi” or “hello”. whatever it takes to get her attention. Then deliver one of your best direct lines.

What line will work? that depends upon you. Try different mindset with different women. The only thing to remember here is that short and sweet wins the race. Your line should have punch but not be overly wordy. you’re looking to get out a confident opener. It almost doesn’t matter what you say. Important part is that you get talking and he seemed to be confidence and sure of yourself. This attitude is more important than anything why comes to breaking the ice with a girl.

The benefits of using the direct approach in breaking the ice with girls

A benefit of using the direct approach with women is confidence. Women love confident man. They’re attracted to confident man. When you try some overly slick line sometimes all you’re doing is showing that you lack confidence in yourself. On many women this can have the opposite effect. It just proves to them how little you believe in yourself. By using this direct approach in breaking the ice with the girl you are showing heard that you are somebody worthy of respect because of your self-confidence and assurance.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker and a matchmaker in LA.

 

How To Impress Him On The First Date–Tips From An Upscale Matchmaker

As a professional matchmaker, I will tell you , first dates are exciting. The mystery of how your date is going to be like is sending butterflies into your stomach. At the same time, you are probably also wondering, ‘how should I present myself on the first date?’ Well the fact that you’re going out with this guy shows that you are attracted to him – so I guess you probably won’t want to mess this up right? You will do just fine by following these tips I’m about to share with you.

Having dated several times before I got engaged, I’ve been to quite a number of ‘first dates’. Needless to say, there were good and bad experiences and along the way, I took note of what kind of behaviour is attractive to a man and what is not. The key is to So let me share them with you.

Attractive Behaviour of Women on A First Date:

  1. Participate in the conversation. What a man likes is to be heard. He will feel that what he is saying isn’t boring you and it gives him a HUGE confidence boost. So, respond to his comments and or questions about the topic the both of you are on and if you are not familiar with the topic, ask him about it! It will give him more things to talk about and you won’t have to be afraid of the situation where there are awkward silences.
  2. Be enthusiastic but not overly enthusiastic. Being enthusiastic during first dates is always a plus point. For example, if the man suggests catching a movie after the meal, go ahead with it. And since he’s decided the program, you have the choice of movie. However, if you’re really tired after a long day provide him with an alternative and let him know that you’re tired – being honest about what you want and feel is essential for a healthy relationship.
  3. Dress up according to the occasion. This is one of the most crucial tip on how you should present yourself on the first date. You see, men are visual beings. The first thing he will take note when you arrive at the date is your physical appearance. It will indicate to him how much you want to have this date with him and if he sense that you aren’t, there is a very high chance that this date may not work out. So, dress according to the occasion and if you aren’t sure what to wear, ask your girlfriends to help you.

Nicole is an upscale matchmaker, and a matchmaker in Los Angeles who runs an upscale matchmaking agency. She can help introduce you upscale singles for lasting love.

 

Eye Contact is Important When Approaching Someone You Like, A tip from an upscale matchmaker.

As a professional matchmaker, I would say that making eye contact with someone you intend to ask out is very important., it is one of the ways you signal that you are interested.

We need to make eye contact. A glance at a girl becomes very personal when it’s slightly longer and with a smile. A guy can use this tactic to save himself from approaching women that may not be interested.

We as humans are naturally trained not to stare. Look all around you, the extroverts in life make eye contact and are ready to engage. If you’re in a social environment put away your iPhone, and engage women with your eyes. This is a powerful tool. Re-occurring glances at a girl followed by a smile can produce amazing results. Picture this as a set of lights. Green (a smile back) – you approach, red (she looks away) – you avoid.

As a crucial dating tip for men, we need to re-train ourselves to look up and get used to making eye contact with women. When we do this a conversation can begin through body language. I define this as a personal introduction with out words being spoken.

Most of us men look away because we fear the rejection, or the disapproval of our glances. This is a wasted opportunity. How many times have we checked out some one, say at a bar, you look at them, they look back. This continues until there is simultaneous eye contact. Then a smile happens or a gesture. Then the guy does nothing more for fear of rejection. More times than not, this opportunity is wasted and the two parties move on. Change this!

Guys,this is you’re goal, this is your challenge. Start by glancing at women and smiling every day.Then follow up with conversations with these girls. This will condition your mind through repetition. Then, when the hot chick arrives you’ll be in the game. Being shy does not work to your advantage here.

After eye contact, the approach can be made much easier. You know she is interested, now you have permission. These are tactics of a player.

In summary, eye contact is a crucial dating tip for men. Get used to looking at women and make deliberate glances with girls you find attractive. Try and hold the gaze with a nice smile and watch their reaction. If it is positive, move in for the pick up. You will be surprised.

This is a crucial advice for men that should be deployed at all times.

Finally, remember that not everyone you glance at will be attracted to you, so expect some glances never to be returned. Don’t take it personally.

Nicole Westwood is a matchmaker in Los Angeles who runs The Nicole Westwood Agency, an upscale matchmaking agency that can help you find the love of your life.

 

An Upscale Matchmaker Tells you How To Tell If A Man Likes You.

Falling in love is one of the best feelings in the world.  Nothing else can make one so giddy with happiness or float on air in bliss. When men fall in love, now that’s a sight to see.  Love can do all sort of things to a man.  It changes them makes them do crazy things, weird things that he never used to do before. Here  is a few tips from professional matchmaker Nicole Westwood will give you a few tips on how to see if a man likes you.

Yes, guys do fall in love but what are the signs you may ask?  According to a book author, there are several common signs actually.  So if you are a girl and there’s a guy whom you feel likes you but you’re not sure then read on. Such is the power of love…

  • They give special attention. One sure way to find out if they are in love with a certain woman is if they give special attention to the girl.  Giving a girl a dozen roses everyday.  According to researches, most guys seem to be shy with regards to showing their feelings.  So girls must be a bit more sensitive sensitive.  They must try to compare the treatment of the guys to them and to other girls.  If a guy is generally mean but is usually nice to a certain girl then chances are he’s attracted to her.
  • Giving compliment. Giving compliments is probably the easiest way of showing special attention to girls.  Guys would pick out a girl’s beautiful feature and they would make sure that she knows about it,  If a girl they like has a beautiful eyes then she would hear the words “you have a beautiful eyes,” at least a hundred times during a conversation.
  • Showering a girl they like with gifts or doing things for her. According to guys the gifts need not be expensive and the favors need not be big.
  • Learn to read between the lines. Girls don’t expect guys to be straightforward.  Learn to read between the lines.  The fact that they are making the effort to talking to you should be taken as a sign.  Thanks to the modern technology that is text messaging, guys can now get in touch with a girl without the risk of getting rejected or embarrassed.
  • They communicate. The worst thing that could happen is that the girl you’re sending a message to would not respond, they would always comfort themselves and the thought that the girl didn’t get the message.
  • Feeling nervous. The most obvious sign that a guy is in love with a girl is if he gets nervous when she’s around.  According to guys they do get butterflies in their stomach and cats do get in their tongues when the object of their desire is in front of them.  So girls must be very observant.  Nervousness would be expressed in something as subtle as telltale as shaking and sweating.
  • They learn how to have a sense of humor. Guys know that possessing a sense of humor is always an advantage in winning a girl’s heart.  They say the quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach to a girl’s is, they think is through her funny bone.  It is the goal of every man to make the girl they like to laugh. And once they achieved that they know the battle is half won.
  • They want to look good. When they are in love, most guys smell and look (at least try) a lot better.  There is something about love that makes ordinary Joes into dashing heartthrobs.  And yes they also seem to shower more frequently when they are in love.  Vanity is not only for girls especially when love’s involved.
  • Ask him. There’s no better way of really knowing a guy’s true feelings than hearing it from him.  Why don’t you just ask, girls!   According to them it’s becoming increasingly acceptable for girls to make the initiative when it comes to love.  And don’t worry about being embarrassed for most guys would appreciate being courted for a change.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker based in Los Angeles. Work with a Nicole Westwood Agency Matchmaking agency matchmaker to help find you the love of your life.

Tips on How to Approach a Man From An Upscale Matchmaker

Approaching a man, especially a man you don’t know very well is sometimes a nerve wracking ordeal. Here are some tips from a professional matchmaker Nicole Westwood to help you approach him with confidence.

Even before we begin, let me give you one single tip that all of you need to follow. This is no mathematics where a formula can be followed to get the perfect outcome every time. It is rather too complicated and any particular pattern cannot be followed. Bear in mind that to become a successful flirt and also an attractive one, you will need to practice all these tips and also sharpen all your feminine senses. Women who have been divorced or have been through painful break-ups, can also try out these tips to regain their confidence and self-esteem. Always remember that the best way of coming back to life is to remind yourself of who you are. Read more on signs of flirting.

Confidence is the Key
One of the first and most important flirting tips for women is confidence. I believe that deep down inside every woman is a very confident person and a woman should make efforts of coming out of her shy nature. The simplest way to display confidence is to maintain a fantastic posture. Being well at ease with the body is the most effective way to show positivity. One must also note that a good posture makes you feel good and also makes you approachable. If a guy does not notice you then too bad for him, either he is too stupid or too shy. Walk straight, stand tall and be comfortable with yourself and you are sure to catch every guy’s attention. Believe it or not, this is the best way to flirt and you will notice at least a hundred pair of eyes staring at you.

Smile Smile Baby!
Smiling is the best body signal that gives the message that you like him. Don’t worry, guys are intelligent enough to understand that amazingly attractive smile of yours. They don’t need to understand any Morse code or feminine communication code to get the message. The best way to put your message through is to glance at the guy, make an eye contact for a fraction of second and then flash the most gorgeous smile. Ignore him for a few seconds and then look at him again. This will definitely put the message forward that you are expecting him to look at you and you are interested as well. Smiling does not mean that you over do it. A controlled and sensual smile will be good enough. Men cannot resist the flirtatious effect of a naughty and alluring smile. You may also refer to flirting language of women for more information.

Gift of the Gab
The eye contact, confidence and the gorgeous smile is always enough for the guy to know that you like him. He is bound to come up to you and use his favorite pick up line or he would come up to you and simply start a conversation. If he does not, you can always go to him and use pick up lines for girls won’t do harm, however, should be used only if you are confident in using them. The best way to keep up a conversation is to narrate really good incidences that would interest the guy, like some hilarious story from your work place or some other situation to lighten the mood.

Try a Nicole Kidman
The last flirting tip that I would offer is a quick set of flirting tips for girls. Dressing in a very clear and confident manner is bound to work wonders and boys would not be able to restrain themselves from asking you out. Choose the dress colors very carefully. It would be a good idea to take help from your friend. Wear colors and designs that suit your skin tone and your body structure. No one likes a clumsily dressed woman, even if she is pretty. Make sure to match proper accessories. Shoes must be comfortable and must be capable of carrying your body weight with ease. Hairdo is particularly important. Your locks should be neatly arranged so that they give you a neat and smart look. Simple make up is recommended for maximum effect.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker based in Los Angeles, You can meet the love of your life through an professional matchmaker in Los Angeles, like the Nicole Westwood Agency.