Simple Ways To Show Him You Love Him–From An Upscale Matchmaker

In order for our relationships to not only survive but also to thrive, it’s important that you find as many ways as you can of showing him you love him. The following three ideas should get you started but try to think of as many as you can:

1. Out of the blue tell him something profound that you love about him. You are the one who is best placed to do this, as you are the one who knows him like no other.

There are things that he’ll know about himself that you know. There are things he’ll know about you that you don’t. There are things neither of you will know about him yet. But there are things you’ll know about him that he won’t have appreciated in himself.

So don’t be shy in coming forward and telling him what’s most loveable about him. Boost his ego, solidify your relationship and help him feel good. Avoid, however, doing this too often as it may not sound genuine.

2. Tell him often what his good points are. Again this should sound genuine and from the heart. Tell him what you see, that you know others see (because you’ve heard it from them) and that he may or may not be aware of.

Do this especially if this is something he does to you, but not in a way that makes it sound like a ‘tit-for-tat’ game. You are one of the closest people to him, so if anyone is going to know his innermost positive points it’s going to be you.

Find excuses for highlighting these to him, and encourage him to focus on those points as often as possible. Again this is a great ego boost and one that will get him thinking positively and warmly about you whether he says this to you or not.

You also don’t have to keep these compliments for when you’re alone together. Highlight them when you’re out with other people as well so they come to appreciate him the way you do.

3. Take him for a surprise meal, to a club or other event. This can either be on a special occasion such as a birthday, or it can be just because you want this to be one of the ways of showing him you love him. Remember that you would want him to do the same for you, so taking him for a surprise meal occasionally should never be an issue for you.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker, a professional matchmaker and a matchmaker in Los Angeles.

Upscale Matchmaker’s Client Spotlight: Alina

Beautiful Alina is new to LA, and would love to find a special man who would show her around. Alina is 26 years, she was born in Europe and describes herself as being educated, sweet, and devoted. She works in finance and would like to find a man who is interested in getting married and having a family. She would prefer to meet an older man 45-55 who is honest, caring, kind and mature.

You can beautiful single women like Alina at the Nicole Westwood Agency. Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker and a professional matchmaker based in Los Angeles. She works with upscale singles all over the US to help them find lasting love and romance.

The Top Ten Ways To Get Over A Break-Up From A Professional Matchmaker

Break-ups are not fun and its something we have all been through. Here are the top ten ways to get over a breakup and move on with your life from upscale matchmaker, Nicole Westwood.

Ten Ways To Get Over a Break-up:

1. Take a Trip: Even if it is just a weekend road trip, take a trip somewhere new and beautiful, either alone, or with friends/family.

2. Volunteer: Volunteering for a worthy cause, especially with people who maybe underprivileged or in need will help give you a new outlook on life.

3. Be Creative: Write, paint, compose, blog etc, Do whatever makes your heart sing.

4. Get an excercise regime: walking, yoga, dance, if you get moving you will not only get fit, you will also get those happy endorphins flowing.

5. Spend time with your friends and family.

6. Counseling: You may groan at this one, but if you went through a particularly bad break-up, it might be good for you to have someone to talk to.

7. Go to the Spa: A manicure, pedicure, facial or massage never did ANYONE harm or get a makeover (just don’t go overboard)

8. Get a couple of funny movies from Netflix, laughter is very healing.

9. Start dating again, might be hard, but you might meet the love of your life.

10.Reflect on what went wrong and what you have learned not to do again.

Four Ways NOT to Get Over a Breakup.

1. Don’t take revenge on your ex even though it might be what you want in the short run. Be the bigger person and move on with your life

2. Don’t binge on junk food.

3. Don’t shop to you drop: Retail therapy is fine, in small doses.

4. Don’t start dating until you feel like you are ready to.

Nicole Westwood is a professional matchmaker and a matchmaker in Los Angeles.

 

 

 

You Can Meet Someone When You Let Go Of Your “List”, From An Upscale Matchmaker

People, particularly women go on date after unsuccessful date with a mental list of what they would like in a partner. Of course, it is reasonable have a list with certain basic requirements for a potential partner, but other things that might be on your “list” might be holding you back from meeting the “one.”

Here are some things on your list that might be holding you back, and the changes you might want to make:

1. Age: Many women and men have only a rigid certain age range they will date in, and this is a big mistake. Saying you will only date people from 30-35 will discount anyone outside that age range, whether older or younger. Remember, age is only a number. As a professional matchmaker I always encourage my clients to expand the age range to include potential matches who might be older or younger than their “set” age range.

2. Income: It’s reasonable requirement that your future partner be gainfully employed and educated, many successful women would like to date a man who is at their level, or just above. While,  It is reasonable to not want a partner who is working at the Gap, it is not reasonable to only want to date a man who is extremely wealthy and not accept anything less.

As an upscale matchmaker, most people who come to by default tend to be successful and upwardly mobile and many DO make over $100,000, but it’s not something I take in to account when matching two people together.

3. Type: Of course, everyone has their own “type” that they are attracted to, being attracted to a person first (especially for men) is the first step to finding a perfect match.

It is reasonable to want to date a tall person if you are tall, or a someone of your culture/race or someone of certain body type, but it is a good idea to keep your mind open about hair color, eye color, or how the person dresses.

When you let go of your list and work with a matchmaker, you can open your mind to a whole new set of potential matches that you might have seen before.

How To Successfully Talk To Women, From An Upscale Matchmaker

Do you wonder how some guys seem so comfortable when they’re talking to a woman they’ve just met? Would you like to know how to approach attractive women, how to get them interested in you, and, most importantly, how to talk to women? If you want to have a wide array of options in the dating market, you need to pay attention to what the pros say about how it’s done.

First, Are You Making This Mistake?

Do you need some help figuring out how to talk to women? If you do, it’s probably because you’re doing what most guys do. They go into “approach mode”, rather like bird dogs ready to flush out pheasants. They get overly focused, tense up, and “point”. When you see a woman you find attractive, do your mind and body sort of “morph” into a “babe-huntin’ machine”? The problem with machines is that they don’t think comfortably. They’re pre-programmed, can’t act on their own, and tend to lock up at just the wrong time. Then you’re apt to become anxious, with sweaty palms and halting speech. You appear to any woman in the vicinity as a stammering dolt. You have nothing to say, and (rightly) begin to feel she’s likely to reject you.

Have you been this guy? If you have, you may think all the other guys out there goes through this trauma every time he meets a pretty woman. Most guys may go through this, but there are a few guys out there who are simply great at knowing how to talk to women. They speak to attractive women in the same manner they do to every other person they meet. This means they don’t go into a panic and start stammering if a woman says “Hello”.

What is it these guys know that majority of men don’t, and how can you get into their way of thinking?

Go Against the Grain

Face it. Most men don’t know how to talk to women, which means that they don’t get a chance to interact with them. They never get a foot in the door. Most men, upon encountering a woman who piques their interest, introduce themselves, tell her she’s pretty, and then try to wheedle her phone number or a date out of her. Most men make the mistake of showing that they’re highly interested in a woman almost at once, which lowers the man’s social worth and status. He comes across as very needy.

After this stage, these men rush immediately into trying to close the sale, so to speak. They don’t do what they view as wasting their time trying to get the woman interested in them. Women don’t want this. They want a little playful interaction, romance, or mystery. Why do you think so many romance novels? It’s because most real men don’t bother with these things women find so enticing. Men hate this, but it’s a fact that isn’t going to change. If you don’t know how to talk with women, and don’t know how to interact with them and not look pathetic, your luck is not about to change. You must know how to talk to women.

You wonder why this isn’t going to work? Well, it hasn’t worked well in the past, has it? Women are not suddenly, as a species, going to change their way of thinking about men and relationships. You’re going to have to do something differently than you’ve been doing, and there’s no way around that fact.

Nicole Westwood is a professional matchmaker and an upscale matchmaker who works with singles to help them find their long lasting love. Nicole Westwood is a matchmaker in LA, but works with singles all over the country.

 

12 Ways To Affair-Proof Your Marriage, From A Professional Matchmaker

There’s no way to absolutely guarantee that your marriage won’t be blindsided by an affair on your part or your spouse’s, but there are definite steps you can take to greatly reduce the probability of that happening.

It’s important to know what you can do to strengthen your marital connection and keep your marriage vibrant and healthy. A rewarding, satisfying marriage that meets the needs of both partners is your best protection against the destructive intrusion of an affair.

So what can you do to “affair proof” your marriage as much as possible? The following twelve steps will guide you in building a stronger marriage partnership and help you and your spouse to withstand the lusty lure of temptation:

1. Make your relationship with your spouse your top priority in the hierarchy involving family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, and others.

Make a real commitment of time, energy, and effort to your marriage. You can end up pulled in so many different directions and over-extended that your most valuable and precious relationship can end up at the bottom of the list unless you make it a top priority.

2. Nurture the emotional intimacy in your marriage.

Make time to talk each day, not just about the events that have happened, but also about your feelings. Share on an emotional level–your fears, your frustrations, your joys, your disappointments, and your challenges. Let your partner know how much you value being able to talk to him or her about anything and to connect on a deep level.

3. Show appreciation on a regular basis.

Be generous with compliments and thank you’s. Tell your spouse at least once a week how much you appreciate him or her and list the qualities that you love, admire, and respect. Don’t worry that you’ve said these things before–no one gets tired of hearing their good traits praised!

4. Spend time together doing fun things and just “hanging out.”

Bonding can deepen when you and your spouse have unstructured time to just relax and hang out together. If every minute of your time together is tightly scheduled and rushed, you’ll miss out on opportunities to be spontaneous. Look for fun things to do–a picnic in the park, a hike, trying a new restaurant, going out dancing, or going swimming.

5. Keep your sex life active.

Sometimes being sick or fatigued gets in the way of sexual desire, as does family stress like caring for an ill or aging parent. Certainly the energy and time required to raise children can leave parents drained and “on empty.”
In spite of these challenges, it’s essential to make time for sex. The sobering reality is that most spouses are more vulnerable to flirtations and sexual advances from others when their sex life is unhappy at home.

6. Discuss and resolve issues as they come up.

Don’t just bury them or neglect trying to resolve them. Learn how to disagree without being disagreeable and causing long-term damage to your relationship. Above all–communicate, communicate, communicate. Keep the communication door wide open at all times.

7. Talk about the problem of infidelity and know that it can strike any marriage.

Bring the subject out into the open and express your feelings and deepest fears. Brainstorm with your spouse about how you can keep your marriage strong and what the two of you think would be helpful in preventing an affair from happening. Commit to telling your spouse if you feel vulnerable or if things start getting out of control in any situation.

8. Share goals for the present and future that inspire you.

When you and your spouse share common goals that you’re passionate about, you will feel closer to each other and more connected. It helps you to feel like a real team. The feeling of partnership is important in deepening commitment to each other. Whatever your mutual dream is, the passion you bring to pursuing it can draw you closer together.

9. Make wise decisions about contact with the opposite sex at work and other settings.

You may encounter special situations and temptations on business trips or at business parties or in your work setting. Talk frankly with your spouse and agree on what you both feel comfortable with. If your spouse is on a business trip and the group goes out dancing, will you be upset if your spouse participates? Plan ahead and head off potential problems.

10. Know the danger signals.

Many affairs have started with individuals sharing intimate personal information with each other on a regular basis while not confiding in their respective spouses. Intimacy can mushroom quickly when secrecy is involved and a feeling of connection develops. Other danger signals are having increased sexual excitement about seeing someone in particular, being in settings with lots of alcohol and drinking when your spouse isn’t present, and being more vulnerable than usual due to feelings of loneliness, rejection, or anger at your spouse.

11. Celebrate your love, anniversaries, birthdays, and other special occasions.

Value your marriage and take advantage of every opportunity to celebrate, such as your wedding anniversary, the date that you met, your spouse’s birthday, and any other special days that the two of you share. This helps to keep the romance alive and also to keep your connection strong. Celebrate your love, your time together, your plans for the future, and the priceless present moment.

12. Support each other’s goals.

Make a commitment to help your spouse be all that he or she is capable of being. Your marriage is only strengthened when each of you is happy and fulfilled with your life. It’s to your advantage to help your spouse reach goals that are important to him or her, even if they aren’t your particular goals. Be positive and encouraging of your spouse’s desires to live up to his or her potential.

Nicole Westwood is professional matchmaker and an upscale matchmaker. Nicole Westwood is a matchmaker in Los Angeles who can help you find lasting love and romance.

The Effects of Technology On Today’s Relationships.

Today, we spend much of our lives sitting in front of a computer screen. We spend our time on such sites as Facebook and Twitter silently communicating with people all over the world, if we leave our house, we are still connected to our computer via our iphone, ipad, blackberry or android. Everything we need is on a computer: our music, our journal, our friends, our loved ones, it’s to point where no one ever picks up a phone

Why should they when they can text, chat, or tweet to one another in a few words?

I have been guilty of it as well, I regularly chat with one of my friends on Facebook and post on her wall and she LIVES A BLOCK FROM ME….

So, what has this kind of effect has technology had on our relationships? Mostly detrimental…couples who go on a date will each dine with a Blackberry next to them and check their incoming mail, having a smart phone so close at hand means work follows them around, even after hours. I can’t count the times I will be out to lunch with a friend and they will interrupt the conversation to answer a text or chat message.

And while Facebook might connect friends and family, it has also been known to break up relationships. Why? Because Facebook makes adultery and infidelity easier than ever. No longer does one to seek a clandestine affair out at work or school, they can have one with a few clicks on the mouse. Countless relationships and marriages have broken up because one partner met someone sexy on Facebook and spent hours chatting with them instead of time with their significant other.

For people willing to take things one step further, there is even a game called Second Life, where users can do exactly what it sounds like. This game offers users a second life in a virtual world where they can own their own home, interact with other users and even have sex…People have been known to have full on relationships in this world, and even get married, often people will carry out one real life relationship and one in the game, and though it is only a game, it has caused real relationships and marriages to shatter beyond repair.

So do yourself and your loved one a favor, shut off your iPhone, iPad, iMac, PC, android or Blackberry and devote yourself to person in front of you.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker and a professional matchmaker based in Los Angeles.

Such a Thing As Love At First Sight? From a Profesional Matchmaker

It’s just karma; for every action, there is a reaction; it must be fate; this was destined to be; these are all clichés that we have heard time and again, but what do they really mean.  According to Wikipedia Karma is the result of cause and effect, and here at It’s Just Karma we want to explore that dynamic in relationships.

Who has ever met two people at the exact same time and taken and instant like for one and an instant dislike for the other?  What is it in our minds that determine who or what we like and don’t like.  Is this a result of Karma?  Because you find one more attractive than the other, the effect is that you like them more.

Have you ever noticed that when we meet a person who does not interest us romantically, they fall in love with us as if we are their soul mates?  Then on the other hand when we meet someone who is attractive to us, they tend to display ambivalence and aloofness towards us.  What is really the cause between the two that has such an effect on the outcome of relationships?

In the case of relationships between members of the opposite sex, I believe the initial reaction is based solely on appearances.  When you first meet someone and declare “I really like this person”, what you actually mean is “I really like the way this person looks”.  No one can possibly decide they really LIKE someone they have only known for a week.  The reality is you don’t even know this person. You have a strong attraction and want to get to know them, but you do not know them.

Some couples declare “It was love at first sight”.  For me, this translates into “It was lust at first sight”.  Some of these couples are happy enough to remain in this partnership until actual love develops, but usually once the lust fizzles out so does the relationship.

Most people go through life with this quest to find that perfect someone.  Some people are successful while others are not.  Where lie’s the secret to this success?  I am embarking on a journey of understanding.  I am determined to understand how men and women think about people of the opposite sex, friends, and relationships as a whole.  I welcome input from both sexes about all kinds of relationships.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker. Nicole Westwood is a matchmaker in Los Angeles who can help you meet the love of your life. A professional matchmaker can help you meet the woman of your dreams.

Are you Girlfriend Material–Tips from An Upscale Matchmaker

Every girl grows up dreaming of her Prince Charming, the man who is so perfect that she falls in love with him instantly and lives happily ever after.

The question is…do men do the same thing?  Does every man you meet have a vision of his perfect girl – his Princess Charming – in his head?

The answer is yes.

I know what you’re thinking – “What is this girl like?  How do I learn to be like her?  How do I become Princess Charming?”  Read on for a few suggestions on how to become perfect girlfriend material…

· Be feminine but don’t be prissy.  If he wanted to be dating someone masculine, he’d be dating a man!  Embrace your inner girly-ness and throw on a skirt and your favorite pair of heels every once in a while.

· Have a good sense of humor.  Women almost always list “A good sense of humor” as one of the top traits they want in a boyfriend.  It’s no different for men.  Relax!  Learn to take a joke, and to dish them back out.

· Accept his flaws.  Think about it – you love the fact that he tells you you’re beautiful in the mornings, or that he thinks you’re sexy even when you haven’t shaved your legs in a week, so return the favor.  So what if he sometimes leaves the seat up?  You’re not perfect – he doesn’t have to be either.

· Have a life outside of your relationship.  Don’t focus all your time and energy on your man.  He’ll start to feel stifled, and he’ll lose respect for you.  Eat dessert.  Travel.  Spend time with your friends.  Work a job you love.  Be independent and love your life (he’ll love it too, and dread not being a part of it!).

· Find balance.  Evolutionarily, men are dominant and women are submissive.  Life has changed considerably since we crawled out of the primordial ooze, but traces of the same psychology remain.  In order to feel confident and successful, a man must feel that he is in control of the things that are important to him.  At the same time, however, men don’t find weak, dependent, needy women attractive.  Be strong, but not threateningly aggressive.

· Be confident with your sexuality.  When you’re girlfriend material, you understand how to be sexy without being skanky.  Take pride in your body.  Be flirtatious.  Initiate sex.  Communicate what you want.  Be a little bit adventurous.  You are self-assured, in control, and completely irresistible!

· Don’t be needy.  Clinginess is one of the biggest turnoffs for a man.  Don’t be upset if he can’t spend time with you.  Don’t act jealous or suspicious if he mentions the name of another woman.  Don’t bombard him with text messages and phone calls.

· Work towards your dreams.  A woman who is ambitious and motivated is incredibly sexy.  Set goals and work towards them.  He’ll be impressed by your determination, and inspired to improve himself.

Follow these tips and you’ll soon become the girl he can’t bear to be without!

Nicole Westwood is a upscale matchmaker and a professional matchmaker in Los Angeles.

 

5 Tips To Attract Women–From an Upscale Matchmaker

As an upscale matchmaker, I can tell you the following five steps will help you learn how to attract women. They should be followed in the order that is suggested and with dedicated effort. By the time you finish number five, you will be ready to attract more women than you will know what to do with.

1. Become attractive to yourself. Look in the mirror and search for the good things. There is a lot there to like. The more you see in yourself that is desirable, the more women will as well. Look past the imperfections that have made you worry about yourself, these things will fade in the eyes of a woman that loves you. If you love yourself, then you will be worthy of her.

2. Put yourself in places where you will be able to find women. You cannot attract a woman who is not there. Likewise, you cannot attract women who have dismissed you time and time again. Try new places where you can start anew. Continuously search for new places to find ladies.

3. Get in touch with your inner woman. Guys have a little bit of estrogen inside of them. That is a scientific fact. You might want to deny it, but you should get to know it. Find out what you naturally know about being a woman. This will help you communicate with the ladies. They will also find you more attractive if they feel like you understand them better.

4. Make them notice you. I’m not saying that you need to be a showboat, but they should at least recognize that you’re in the room. Let me tell you a story of one time I commanded a room for the sole purpose of getting on girl to notice me. I was at friend’s wedding, and he had not asked me to give a toast. I wanted a girl there to know who I was, so I made a toast anyway. I just tried to be as confident as possible during the toast. I let my emotions run a little high so that I would look sweet. It worked really well. Later on when I talked to the girl, she remembered me from the toast. It was a good way to start a conversation. She felt like we had met before. So, be sure to be noticeable.

5. Awkward silence kill attraction. Try not to let them creep into a conversation. Keep the ball moving. You will want her to talk about herself as much as possible. Still, if a there is a silent hole that needs to be filled, don’t be afraid to tell your own life’s story. This keeps the conversation moving. Also, keep it lively. Don’t bring up anything depressing, and try to keep her from saying something depressing. You don’t want to have to pause for anything. The quicker the conversation is moving, the higher the attraction will be.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker and a matchmaker in Los Angeles.