Upscale Matchmaker’s Client Spotlight: Alina

Beautiful Alina is new to LA, and would love to find a special man who would show her around. Alina is 26 years, she was born in Europe and describes herself as being educated, sweet, and devoted. She works in finance and would like to find a man who is interested in getting married and having a family. She would prefer to meet an older man 45-55 who is honest, caring, kind and mature.

You can beautiful single women like Alina at the Nicole Westwood Agency. Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker and a professional matchmaker based in Los Angeles. She works with upscale singles all over the US to help them find lasting love and romance.

The Top Ten Ways To Get Over A Break-Up From A Professional Matchmaker

Break-ups are not fun and its something we have all been through. Here are the top ten ways to get over a breakup and move on with your life from upscale matchmaker, Nicole Westwood.

Ten Ways To Get Over a Break-up:

1. Take a Trip: Even if it is just a weekend road trip, take a trip somewhere new and beautiful, either alone, or with friends/family.

2. Volunteer: Volunteering for a worthy cause, especially with people who maybe underprivileged or in need will help give you a new outlook on life.

3. Be Creative: Write, paint, compose, blog etc, Do whatever makes your heart sing.

4. Get an excercise regime: walking, yoga, dance, if you get moving you will not only get fit, you will also get those happy endorphins flowing.

5. Spend time with your friends and family.

6. Counseling: You may groan at this one, but if you went through a particularly bad break-up, it might be good for you to have someone to talk to.

7. Go to the Spa: A manicure, pedicure, facial or massage never did ANYONE harm or get a makeover (just don’t go overboard)

8. Get a couple of funny movies from Netflix, laughter is very healing.

9. Start dating again, might be hard, but you might meet the love of your life.

10.Reflect on what went wrong and what you have learned not to do again.

Four Ways NOT to Get Over a Breakup.

1. Don’t take revenge on your ex even though it might be what you want in the short run. Be the bigger person and move on with your life

2. Don’t binge on junk food.

3. Don’t shop to you drop: Retail therapy is fine, in small doses.

4. Don’t start dating until you feel like you are ready to.

Nicole Westwood is a professional matchmaker and a matchmaker in Los Angeles.

 

 

 

You Can Meet Someone When You Let Go Of Your “List”, From An Upscale Matchmaker

People, particularly women go on date after unsuccessful date with a mental list of what they would like in a partner. Of course, it is reasonable have a list with certain basic requirements for a potential partner, but other things that might be on your “list” might be holding you back from meeting the “one.”

Here are some things on your list that might be holding you back, and the changes you might want to make:

1. Age: Many women and men have only a rigid certain age range they will date in, and this is a big mistake. Saying you will only date people from 30-35 will discount anyone outside that age range, whether older or younger. Remember, age is only a number. As a professional matchmaker I always encourage my clients to expand the age range to include potential matches who might be older or younger than their “set” age range.

2. Income: It’s reasonable requirement that your future partner be gainfully employed and educated, many successful women would like to date a man who is at their level, or just above. While,  It is reasonable to not want a partner who is working at the Gap, it is not reasonable to only want to date a man who is extremely wealthy and not accept anything less.

As an upscale matchmaker, most people who come to by default tend to be successful and upwardly mobile and many DO make over $100,000, but it’s not something I take in to account when matching two people together.

3. Type: Of course, everyone has their own “type” that they are attracted to, being attracted to a person first (especially for men) is the first step to finding a perfect match.

It is reasonable to want to date a tall person if you are tall, or a someone of your culture/race or someone of certain body type, but it is a good idea to keep your mind open about hair color, eye color, or how the person dresses.

When you let go of your list and work with a matchmaker, you can open your mind to a whole new set of potential matches that you might have seen before.

The Effects of Technology On Today’s Relationships.

Today, we spend much of our lives sitting in front of a computer screen. We spend our time on such sites as Facebook and Twitter silently communicating with people all over the world, if we leave our house, we are still connected to our computer via our iphone, ipad, blackberry or android. Everything we need is on a computer: our music, our journal, our friends, our loved ones, it’s to point where no one ever picks up a phone

Why should they when they can text, chat, or tweet to one another in a few words?

I have been guilty of it as well, I regularly chat with one of my friends on Facebook and post on her wall and she LIVES A BLOCK FROM ME….

So, what has this kind of effect has technology had on our relationships? Mostly detrimental…couples who go on a date will each dine with a Blackberry next to them and check their incoming mail, having a smart phone so close at hand means work follows them around, even after hours. I can’t count the times I will be out to lunch with a friend and they will interrupt the conversation to answer a text or chat message.

And while Facebook might connect friends and family, it has also been known to break up relationships. Why? Because Facebook makes adultery and infidelity easier than ever. No longer does one to seek a clandestine affair out at work or school, they can have one with a few clicks on the mouse. Countless relationships and marriages have broken up because one partner met someone sexy on Facebook and spent hours chatting with them instead of time with their significant other.

For people willing to take things one step further, there is even a game called Second Life, where users can do exactly what it sounds like. This game offers users a second life in a virtual world where they can own their own home, interact with other users and even have sex…People have been known to have full on relationships in this world, and even get married, often people will carry out one real life relationship and one in the game, and though it is only a game, it has caused real relationships and marriages to shatter beyond repair.

So do yourself and your loved one a favor, shut off your iPhone, iPad, iMac, PC, android or Blackberry and devote yourself to person in front of you.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker and a professional matchmaker based in Los Angeles.

Such a Thing As Love At First Sight? From a Profesional Matchmaker

It’s just karma; for every action, there is a reaction; it must be fate; this was destined to be; these are all clichés that we have heard time and again, but what do they really mean.  According to Wikipedia Karma is the result of cause and effect, and here at It’s Just Karma we want to explore that dynamic in relationships.

Who has ever met two people at the exact same time and taken and instant like for one and an instant dislike for the other?  What is it in our minds that determine who or what we like and don’t like.  Is this a result of Karma?  Because you find one more attractive than the other, the effect is that you like them more.

Have you ever noticed that when we meet a person who does not interest us romantically, they fall in love with us as if we are their soul mates?  Then on the other hand when we meet someone who is attractive to us, they tend to display ambivalence and aloofness towards us.  What is really the cause between the two that has such an effect on the outcome of relationships?

In the case of relationships between members of the opposite sex, I believe the initial reaction is based solely on appearances.  When you first meet someone and declare “I really like this person”, what you actually mean is “I really like the way this person looks”.  No one can possibly decide they really LIKE someone they have only known for a week.  The reality is you don’t even know this person. You have a strong attraction and want to get to know them, but you do not know them.

Some couples declare “It was love at first sight”.  For me, this translates into “It was lust at first sight”.  Some of these couples are happy enough to remain in this partnership until actual love develops, but usually once the lust fizzles out so does the relationship.

Most people go through life with this quest to find that perfect someone.  Some people are successful while others are not.  Where lie’s the secret to this success?  I am embarking on a journey of understanding.  I am determined to understand how men and women think about people of the opposite sex, friends, and relationships as a whole.  I welcome input from both sexes about all kinds of relationships.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker. Nicole Westwood is a matchmaker in Los Angeles who can help you meet the love of your life. A professional matchmaker can help you meet the woman of your dreams.

Are you Girlfriend Material–Tips from An Upscale Matchmaker

Every girl grows up dreaming of her Prince Charming, the man who is so perfect that she falls in love with him instantly and lives happily ever after.

The question is…do men do the same thing?  Does every man you meet have a vision of his perfect girl – his Princess Charming – in his head?

The answer is yes.

I know what you’re thinking – “What is this girl like?  How do I learn to be like her?  How do I become Princess Charming?”  Read on for a few suggestions on how to become perfect girlfriend material…

· Be feminine but don’t be prissy.  If he wanted to be dating someone masculine, he’d be dating a man!  Embrace your inner girly-ness and throw on a skirt and your favorite pair of heels every once in a while.

· Have a good sense of humor.  Women almost always list “A good sense of humor” as one of the top traits they want in a boyfriend.  It’s no different for men.  Relax!  Learn to take a joke, and to dish them back out.

· Accept his flaws.  Think about it – you love the fact that he tells you you’re beautiful in the mornings, or that he thinks you’re sexy even when you haven’t shaved your legs in a week, so return the favor.  So what if he sometimes leaves the seat up?  You’re not perfect – he doesn’t have to be either.

· Have a life outside of your relationship.  Don’t focus all your time and energy on your man.  He’ll start to feel stifled, and he’ll lose respect for you.  Eat dessert.  Travel.  Spend time with your friends.  Work a job you love.  Be independent and love your life (he’ll love it too, and dread not being a part of it!).

· Find balance.  Evolutionarily, men are dominant and women are submissive.  Life has changed considerably since we crawled out of the primordial ooze, but traces of the same psychology remain.  In order to feel confident and successful, a man must feel that he is in control of the things that are important to him.  At the same time, however, men don’t find weak, dependent, needy women attractive.  Be strong, but not threateningly aggressive.

· Be confident with your sexuality.  When you’re girlfriend material, you understand how to be sexy without being skanky.  Take pride in your body.  Be flirtatious.  Initiate sex.  Communicate what you want.  Be a little bit adventurous.  You are self-assured, in control, and completely irresistible!

· Don’t be needy.  Clinginess is one of the biggest turnoffs for a man.  Don’t be upset if he can’t spend time with you.  Don’t act jealous or suspicious if he mentions the name of another woman.  Don’t bombard him with text messages and phone calls.

· Work towards your dreams.  A woman who is ambitious and motivated is incredibly sexy.  Set goals and work towards them.  He’ll be impressed by your determination, and inspired to improve himself.

Follow these tips and you’ll soon become the girl he can’t bear to be without!

Nicole Westwood is a upscale matchmaker and a professional matchmaker in Los Angeles.

 

5 Tips To Attract Women–From an Upscale Matchmaker

As an upscale matchmaker, I can tell you the following five steps will help you learn how to attract women. They should be followed in the order that is suggested and with dedicated effort. By the time you finish number five, you will be ready to attract more women than you will know what to do with.

1. Become attractive to yourself. Look in the mirror and search for the good things. There is a lot there to like. The more you see in yourself that is desirable, the more women will as well. Look past the imperfections that have made you worry about yourself, these things will fade in the eyes of a woman that loves you. If you love yourself, then you will be worthy of her.

2. Put yourself in places where you will be able to find women. You cannot attract a woman who is not there. Likewise, you cannot attract women who have dismissed you time and time again. Try new places where you can start anew. Continuously search for new places to find ladies.

3. Get in touch with your inner woman. Guys have a little bit of estrogen inside of them. That is a scientific fact. You might want to deny it, but you should get to know it. Find out what you naturally know about being a woman. This will help you communicate with the ladies. They will also find you more attractive if they feel like you understand them better.

4. Make them notice you. I’m not saying that you need to be a showboat, but they should at least recognize that you’re in the room. Let me tell you a story of one time I commanded a room for the sole purpose of getting on girl to notice me. I was at friend’s wedding, and he had not asked me to give a toast. I wanted a girl there to know who I was, so I made a toast anyway. I just tried to be as confident as possible during the toast. I let my emotions run a little high so that I would look sweet. It worked really well. Later on when I talked to the girl, she remembered me from the toast. It was a good way to start a conversation. She felt like we had met before. So, be sure to be noticeable.

5. Awkward silence kill attraction. Try not to let them creep into a conversation. Keep the ball moving. You will want her to talk about herself as much as possible. Still, if a there is a silent hole that needs to be filled, don’t be afraid to tell your own life’s story. This keeps the conversation moving. Also, keep it lively. Don’t bring up anything depressing, and try to keep her from saying something depressing. You don’t want to have to pause for anything. The quicker the conversation is moving, the higher the attraction will be.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker and a matchmaker in Los Angeles.

Breaking the Ice With the Woman You Are Interested In–Tips From a Professional Matchmaker

Breaking the ice with women is all about getting the conversation flowing. Some people even utilize cheesy pickup lines to get the conversation started.

The fact is about 70% of the time the woman will know if she wants talk to you before you open your mouth. Sometimes the things you can say to be dumb and you can still succeed. Sometimes you can come out with the most incredible and witty banter, and she just won’t have it. Successful breaking of the ice is all about getting that remaining 30% going.

When will you want to break the ice with girls

Introductions are the single best way to break the ice with girls. But does not always feasible. When you get introduced to someone is like a person’s or developing for your basic character and abilities.

But most women you meet will not get a chance to be introduced to. Chances are the girls you meet and wish to talk to will been situations like this:

• She is with her friends
• She is standing near or around a dance floor
• She is in line at a bank, store, restaurant etc
• She is in a bar or club
• She is at a party

 

So how do you break the ice with these girls

People can come up with lots of different ways to break the ice with a girl. from those cheesy pickup lines. To asking them for the time. To asking a woman questions. To pretending you think you know her from somewhere. The list goes on and on.

all of these methods to approach women will work sometimes. All of these methods to approach women will fail sometimes. Basically belt, and it comes to approaching women there only to real types of approaches. The indirect approach. In the direct approach.

The Indirect Approach:uses subterfuge. You’re going to say one thing while you mean another. Is all about using transparent excuses to try to get the girl talking. For some women this does work better. Other women will be angered because you will think they will fall for overly slick techniques.

The Direct Approach: is straightforward. At its core is very basic. You go up to the girl you want to break the ice with and start talking to her. From the beginning you’re letting her know what you want. remember for many girls they’ve already decided whether they will talk to you are not. Sometimes playing games is just wasting time and inviting trouble.

Why not try using the Direct Approach with Women

Approaching women directly, as a means to break the ice with a girl is a powerful technique if done correctly. And it is quite simple.

Just go up to the girl. Tap her on the shoulder. Touch her elbow. Look her in the eyes as you approach. Say “hi” or “hello”. whatever it takes to get her attention. Then deliver one of your best direct lines.

What line will work? that depends upon you. Try different mindset with different women. The only thing to remember here is that short and sweet wins the race. Your line should have punch but not be overly wordy. you’re looking to get out a confident opener. It almost doesn’t matter what you say. Important part is that you get talking and he seemed to be confidence and sure of yourself. This attitude is more important than anything why comes to breaking the ice with a girl.

The benefits of using the direct approach in breaking the ice with girls

A benefit of using the direct approach with women is confidence. Women love confident man. They’re attracted to confident man. When you try some overly slick line sometimes all you’re doing is showing that you lack confidence in yourself. On many women this can have the opposite effect. It just proves to them how little you believe in yourself. By using this direct approach in breaking the ice with the girl you are showing heard that you are somebody worthy of respect because of your self-confidence and assurance.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker and a matchmaker in LA.

 

How to Hire an Upscale Matchmaker

1. Do your research.

There are hundreds of professional matchmakers, everyone has a niche. Some matchmaking agencies are large, some are small, decide which one would work best with you. Chances are if you are seeking one on one customer service, you should go with a smaller matchmaking agency where you will work directly with the head matchmaker and owner of the company.

2.  Don’t be afraid to go out-of-state.

As a professional matchmaker, many of my clients are from out-of-state. If you find the right matchmaker and she/he is out-of-state, don’t despair, a matchmaker out-of-state could have a large database in your state, so she/he might be worth looking into.

3. Consider Cost.

An upscale matchmaker is not cheap, but some matchmakers charge differently from others. Some of the larger matchmakers require that you sign a yearly contract, and some like us work a month to month on a fairly priced retainer.

Nicole Westwood is an matchmaker in Los Angeles who works with upscale clients to find them long-lasting love.

Eye Contact is Important When Approaching Someone You Like, A tip from an upscale matchmaker.

As a professional matchmaker, I would say that making eye contact with someone you intend to ask out is very important., it is one of the ways you signal that you are interested.

We need to make eye contact. A glance at a girl becomes very personal when it’s slightly longer and with a smile. A guy can use this tactic to save himself from approaching women that may not be interested.

We as humans are naturally trained not to stare. Look all around you, the extroverts in life make eye contact and are ready to engage. If you’re in a social environment put away your iPhone, and engage women with your eyes. This is a powerful tool. Re-occurring glances at a girl followed by a smile can produce amazing results. Picture this as a set of lights. Green (a smile back) – you approach, red (she looks away) – you avoid.

As a crucial dating tip for men, we need to re-train ourselves to look up and get used to making eye contact with women. When we do this a conversation can begin through body language. I define this as a personal introduction with out words being spoken.

Most of us men look away because we fear the rejection, or the disapproval of our glances. This is a wasted opportunity. How many times have we checked out some one, say at a bar, you look at them, they look back. This continues until there is simultaneous eye contact. Then a smile happens or a gesture. Then the guy does nothing more for fear of rejection. More times than not, this opportunity is wasted and the two parties move on. Change this!

Guys,this is you’re goal, this is your challenge. Start by glancing at women and smiling every day.Then follow up with conversations with these girls. This will condition your mind through repetition. Then, when the hot chick arrives you’ll be in the game. Being shy does not work to your advantage here.

After eye contact, the approach can be made much easier. You know she is interested, now you have permission. These are tactics of a player.

In summary, eye contact is a crucial dating tip for men. Get used to looking at women and make deliberate glances with girls you find attractive. Try and hold the gaze with a nice smile and watch their reaction. If it is positive, move in for the pick up. You will be surprised.

This is a crucial advice for men that should be deployed at all times.

Finally, remember that not everyone you glance at will be attracted to you, so expect some glances never to be returned. Don’t take it personally.

Nicole Westwood is a matchmaker in Los Angeles who runs The Nicole Westwood Agency, an upscale matchmaking agency that can help you find the love of your life.