There might be plenty of fish in the sea, but a good woman is hard to find. If you are a man who is ready to meet the love of your life, this article written by professional matchmaker Nicole Westwood will tell you what constitutes a good woman, what she is looking for in a man and how you can find one.
What is a Good Woman?
There are several characteristics of “a good woman.” One of the most important qualities of this woman is emotional maturity. A good woman knows how to effectively communicate without resorting to game playing, passive aggressiveness or name calling. This woman understands how to talk things through and how to fight fair.
Most importantly, she understands no relationship is perfect and that good relationships are not built in a day and that they take many months if not years to develop. A good woman is willing to roll up her sleeves and put in the hard work that it takes to make a relationship last.
Furthermore, she understands the meaning of “for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health”. Even if she is not rushing to the altar, she understands what it means to be a good mate. She understands that a good partner is one part lover, one part best friend and like a best friend she will be there for her man in good times and in bad. A good woman understands she cannot change you. If you have problems that need to be worked out that are getting in the way of a successful relationship or marriage she knows you will need to address these issues on your own.
A good woman takes care of herself physically, she respects her body and values being healthy and staying in shape. She has already gone through her party-girl phase. Her life is stable and in balance and does not resemble the plot of a daytime soap opera.
A good woman makes time for a relationship, but not too much time. This woman takes time from her work and social life to spend time getting to know you and developing a close bond. When she is with you, she shuts off her blackberry and she does not text her friends during a romantic evening out. But she also maintains her independence, and a healthy work or school life, hobbies, and time with her friends and family and is not sitting by the phone waiting for you to call her.
What A Good Woman Seeks In A Man.
Of course, different women are seeking various qualities in a man, but there are a couple of things which are essential to a woman who is seriously looking for lasting love. A good woman is seeking a long-term monogamous relationship. For some women this could simply mean a steady boyfriend, for others it could mean marriage and starting a family.
A good woman is seeking a man who is stable financially. This does not mean you have to be a millionaire or even wealthy, it just means that you are not sleeping on your mom’s couch or are seriously in debt. If a woman is looking at what you make and basing whether she cares about you or not on that fact, there is a huge chance she is not the woman for you. A good woman is not looking at how much money you make, but what you do with the money you do make. A man that manages his money and his life responsibly is the sign of a good partner.
Women who say things like they will only date a man who makes six figures are not really looking for a good man, they are looking for a sugar daddy.
A good woman is seeking a man who is emotionally strong, free from emotional baggage and drama, one who can be her rock. She seeks a man who has long lasting friendships and a healthy relationship with his family. And most of all a man who treats other people with kindness and respect.
A good woman is seeking a man who is monogamous and who is open to get married or having a family. Of course this will depend on her age and lifestyle. It’s a myth all women are looking to get married and have children, but at the very least she is looking for a steady partner with whom she can share her life.
And lastly, a good woman is not rushing to find a boyfriend or husband. As far as she is concerned, she is happy staying single until she finds the right guy.
How to Find Her.
There is no doubt about it, a good woman is hard to find and a good woman with whom you share chemistry is even harder to find, but there are places you can look to increase your chances of meeting her. You are probably not going to find Ms. Right at a club or a bar partying until 3 am on a week night, but some places you might find her are at professional networking events, at church or at temple, taking a class or volunteering, or even at the gym or the supermarket. You could also find her through your network of friends or family or even through a matchmaker like me.
Are you ready to meet her?
Not all men are ready to meet this type of woman. Some men are simply not ready to give up the bachelor life style. For these men the very idea of monogamy or marriage can be downright frightening. But for those of you who are ready, there are plenty of good women out there seeking the loves of their life who just might be you.
The Nicole Westwood Agency is an upscale matchmaking agency based in Los Angeles.