Matchmaking

Ten Signs Of An Unhealthy Marriage

Marriage is supposed to be the ultimate commitment to another person. When you decide to marry someone, you are supposed 100 percent sure that this person will be your best friend and partner for life, but so often couples get married to hasitly or for the wrong reasons and their marriage becomes toxic.Here he top 10 signs of an unhealthy marriage:

10. Neglectful

In most marriages, the partners are work because love alone doesn’t pay the bills. However, do not take your spouse for granted. Be sure to embrace them and spend quality time with them.

9. Unsupportive

Most marriages are founded on things that the couple has in common. However, even soul mates have different goals. Many of these goals were thought of before the marriage. So, be supportive of your spouse in their goals. Encourage them to achieve these goals. If something doesn’t work out, analyze the strong areas and weak areas of seeking these goals. Assist them in doing better.

8. Selfish

Share the wealth of love with your partner. Give, don’t always take. Remember, material things do not make up a life together; Love is the lifeboat of a marriage.

7. Obstinate

Always be willing to compromise. Even soul mates aren’t guaranteed to have everything in common. Be willing to let down your guard and give in to your partner. This way, you will learn something new about them and you may even discover something new about yourself.

6. Withdrawn

Communication is key. It is important to communicate with your partner, even if it is something hard for you talk about. It will help to talk about your problems with your spouse even if you don’t agree. Disagreements of course can be solved through compromising.

5. Lies

Never lie. Always be open and honest with spouse. When one lies it will take a lie to cove the original and one to cover the next. Well, you get the picture. Lies become a vicious circle to cover the truth.

4. Doubtful

Get rid of the paranoia. Trust your spouse. Being paranoid and doubtful is unhealthy for your own mental health as well as stressful for your spouse. They will stress themselves out trying to prove their loyalty or they may grow tired and leave.

3. Disregarding

Be attentive. Listen to your mate. Notice their habits and make sure they are aware that you have observed their habits.

2.No Passion

Keep things hot! Provide continuous romantic gestures even if it is not a special occasion. Make sure your spouse know that they are loved.

1. Convenience

The number one rule of marriage is to make sure that you have married for the right reason. Too many times, married couples marry for the wrong reasons. This is the number one reason that most marriages end. Some spouses marry for convenience. This is a definite sign that a marriage is unhealthy.

Therefore, to ensure that your marriage is healthy, be sure to know and understand the vows that you are promising to each other during the ceremony.  Some of the happiest couples  have had the smallest, cheapest wedding and may not live in a huge home. However, these people oddly seems to be the happiest because they took their vows more serious and married for love. Therefore, their marriage has some substance.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker who owns The Nicole Westwood Agency, an upscale matchmaking agency in Los Angeles

 

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