Do you wonder how some guys seem so comfortable when they’re talking to a woman they’ve just met? Would you like to know how to approach attractive women, how to get them interested in you, and, most importantly, how to talk to women? If you want to have a wide array of options in the dating market, you need to pay attention to what the pros say about how it’s done.
First, Are You Making This Mistake?
Do you need some help figuring out how to talk to women? If you do, it’s probably because you’re doing what most guys do. They go into “approach mode”, rather like bird dogs ready to flush out pheasants. They get overly focused, tense up, and “point”. When you see a woman you find attractive, do your mind and body sort of “morph” into a “babe-huntin’ machine”? The problem with machines is that they don’t think comfortably. They’re pre-programmed, can’t act on their own, and tend to lock up at just the wrong time. Then you’re apt to become anxious, with sweaty palms and halting speech. You appear to any woman in the vicinity as a stammering dolt. You have nothing to say, and (rightly) begin to feel she’s likely to reject you.
Have you been this guy? If you have, you may think all the other guys out there goes through this trauma every time he meets a pretty woman. Most guys may go through this, but there are a few guys out there who are simply great at knowing how to talk to women. They speak to attractive women in the same manner they do to every other person they meet. This means they don’t go into a panic and start stammering if a woman says “Hello”.
What is it these guys know that majority of men don’t, and how can you get into their way of thinking?
Go Against the Grain
Face it. Most men don’t know how to talk to women, which means that they don’t get a chance to interact with them. They never get a foot in the door. Most men, upon encountering a woman who piques their interest, introduce themselves, tell her she’s pretty, and then try to wheedle her phone number or a date out of her. Most men make the mistake of showing that they’re highly interested in a woman almost at once, which lowers the man’s social worth and status. He comes across as very needy.
After this stage, these men rush immediately into trying to close the sale, so to speak. They don’t do what they view as wasting their time trying to get the woman interested in them. Women don’t want this. They want a little playful interaction, romance, or mystery. Why do you think so many romance novels? It’s because most real men don’t bother with these things women find so enticing. Men hate this, but it’s a fact that isn’t going to change. If you don’t know how to talk with women, and don’t know how to interact with them and not look pathetic, your luck is not about to change. You must know how to talk to women.
You wonder why this isn’t going to work? Well, it hasn’t worked well in the past, has it? Women are not suddenly, as a species, going to change their way of thinking about men and relationships. You’re going to have to do something differently than you’ve been doing, and there’s no way around that fact.
Nicole Westwood is a professional matchmaker and an upscale matchmaker who works with singles to help them find their long lasting love. Nicole Westwood is a matchmaker in LA, but works with singles all over the country.