In order for our relationships to not only survive but also to thrive, it’s important that you find as many ways as you can of showing him you love him. The following three ideas should get you started but try to think of as many as you can:
1. Out of the blue tell him something profound that you love about him. You are the one who is best placed to do this, as you are the one who knows him like no other.
There are things that he’ll know about himself that you know. There are things he’ll know about you that you don’t. There are things neither of you will know about him yet. But there are things you’ll know about him that he won’t have appreciated in himself.
So don’t be shy in coming forward and telling him what’s most loveable about him. Boost his ego, solidify your relationship and help him feel good. Avoid, however, doing this too often as it may not sound genuine.
2. Tell him often what his good points are. Again this should sound genuine and from the heart. Tell him what you see, that you know others see (because you’ve heard it from them) and that he may or may not be aware of.
Do this especially if this is something he does to you, but not in a way that makes it sound like a ‘tit-for-tat’ game. You are one of the closest people to him, so if anyone is going to know his innermost positive points it’s going to be you.
Find excuses for highlighting these to him, and encourage him to focus on those points as often as possible. Again this is a great ego boost and one that will get him thinking positively and warmly about you whether he says this to you or not.
You also don’t have to keep these compliments for when you’re alone together. Highlight them when you’re out with other people as well so they come to appreciate him the way you do.
3. Take him for a surprise meal, to a club or other event. This can either be on a special occasion such as a birthday, or it can be just because you want this to be one of the ways of showing him you love him. Remember that you would want him to do the same for you, so taking him for a surprise meal occasionally should never be an issue for you.