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Why Do People Need Relationship Coaching?–From An Upscale Matchmaker

As an upscale matchmaker, sometimes I suggest my clients go to a relationship coach, like one we have on staff here at Perfect 10 Introductions because they need to sharpen some of their tools in their dating tool box before they get out and play the dating game.
To the guys I am dealing with, I generally liken dating to baseball. You might know how the rules of baseball, you probably know how to throw a ball, but you are not going to be a great baseball player before you get some coaching in the game of love.

Let me begin by clarifying what coaching is in general. There are many definitions and models of personal coaching. There is a distinction between coaching and other professions such as therapists or counselors.

Coaching focuses on the strengths and abilities of the client in a positive way to assist them in defining individual goals and making changes to accomplish those goals.

Recently, I found this question for coaches on the International Coaching Federation forum: It was a royal wedding day question:

“What are the similarities between an open horse-drawn carriage and your role as a professional coach?”

This is my answer:

Coaching has the power to move (support) a client towards a desirable destination. And only a client can understand his/her direction and begin the process towards it.

Dating and relationship coaching.

Sometimes men and women develop – either subconsciously or consciously – relationship patterns without really knowing why and some of these patterns can lead to disappointments. An individual level of confidence or self-esteem plays an essential part for dating outcomes too.

The benefits of coaching sessions enable the coach to ask pertinent questions which are a powerful tool when taking a person on their journey of self -evaluation.

Additionally, dating coaching facilitates the discovery of a person’s values. Moreover, it helps a person to design rules that will move him or her in the direction of these values to achieve desired results in their relationship. The beauty of coaching is a realisation of individual potential to amplify self-belief.

Professional coaching is a significant investment in time and money to make you more in control of your life, instead of waiting for the outside world to do it for you. It increases your awareness of the connection between your choices and consequences.

Coaching will empower you to change your thoughts and behaviour and encourage you to put these into practice. Because“knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.”(Goethe)

Let me ask you.

How essential is it during your lifetime to have a partner, who loves, accepts and supports you, and with whom you share your life. If more people took the time to learn about themselves and to date with authenticity and clarity, then I believe there would be fewer instances of divorce and heartbreak.

How many of us raise a question concerning the importance of finding success in our love life?

Because who you choose as a life partner is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make as it affects everything; including the whole quality of your life, emotional state, children, finances, home, sex life and anything else you can think of. Dating is a skill that could be developed to encompass a better understanding for compatibility in a relationship.

Here are some test questions for dating coaching:

1. What do you look for in men/women?

2. Why is this important for you?

3. The man/woman you would like to connect with. What is he/she missing in his/her life?

4. What does it take for you to feel loved by your partner?

5. Imagine your ideal relationship. What would you have that you don’t have now?

Wishing you happiness and love – always

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