Matchmaking

How To Easily Get Model Quality Introductions from An Upscale Matchmaker

In my previous articles as a upscale matchmaker,  I talked about how to approach beautiful women successfully whether they are on their own or in groups…In this article I am going to discuss how to talk to beautiful women…because this is where most men fall down…

A lot of visitors to my matchmaking website have asked me… ‘But…what do I actually say when I talk to a women…I always seem to bore them to death…I keep putting my big foot in it, etc…’

I have discussed in previous articles how you need to be confident but not arrogant when talking to women and how you need to keep the conversation as natural as possible and focused where possible on them…

Well first let’s look at some of the main mistakes men make when they talk to beautiful women…

No 1 – Boring her to tears

This is a mistake all men make at times, some more than others…You know how guys talk to guys, at the club, bar or office…They compete, right? Basically my car’s better than your car, I’m the best golfer or whatever…you will notice any women in their company or close by, quickly glaze over and drift away to talk to each other…

Well a lot of guys when talking to women make this mistake…they endlessly drone about their achievements at work, in sport, etc or go on about current affairs and politics in an effort to impress the lady…she never gets a look in and therefore feels undervalued…

No 2 – Interrogation

Many men get the impression that if they are talking to a woman and she isn’t saying much back then she isn’t interested…so to compensate for this, if they aren’t already making mistake no.1, they bombard the lady with questions to keep the conversation going. However this often has the opposite effect and reveals an insecurity which often turns the lady off altogether.

No 3 – The Angry Silence

Or…the fear of the ‘pregnant pause’. This is similar to mistakes 1. & 2. and leads some men to never shut up. Watch two guys talking together…there be loads of pauses in the conversation. It’s perfectly natural that there will be periods of silence when talking to a woman…so just let them happen…more than likely the lady will fill the void anyway.

So what should you do when talking to beautiful women…

1. Avoid Yes/ No responses

Don’t ask too many questions but if you do, avoid ones that can be answered with a simple yes or no response. Give her control of the conversation by asking her opinion… ‘How do you think this place could be improved?’ is far better than ‘Do you come here a lot?’…you are inviting her to express an opinion which by default implies you value it and therefore her…

2. Silence is Golden

Don’t be afraid of those small periods of silence. They are perfectly natural. To appear confident, which women love, just let them happen, sip your drink or whatever and just let things flow…

3. Create a Rapport

It’s OK to ‘talk about the weather’ at first but you quickly need to move on to more interesting topics. Tell her a positive story about a recent holiday or a movie you’ve seen. She will then want to tell you her similar experiences. By swapping stories in this way you are creating a rapport that will be both natural and enjoyable.

In summary, when talking to beautiful women, you should be as confident and natural as possible. Don’t bore her to death or intimidate her with too many questions. Aim to build a rapport by swapping engaging stories and remember to ask her opinions.

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