How To End A Relationship in Peace–From An Upscale Matchmaker

There is nothing funny or easy about parting company. IF you know it is time to let go because it is no longer working, you MUST do so. Regardless if it is a marriage or the ending of a long-term love, you owe it to yourself and the other person to end it with dignity. Of course, there is more involved in the breakup of a marriage than a relationship. The principles are still the same.

Here are 3 Tips to help you get through this difficult time.

Tip #1

Don’t waiver in your decision to end it. Think it through clearly before you take action. Don’t allow yourself to feel pity or guilt. Do not back down because of an emotional scene. You know when it is time to end things. Do it with kindness and stay firm in your resolve.

Tip #2

Give the other person the respect of telling them in person. Don’t just refuse to take their calls or blow them off in some way. If a conversation in person is not possible, then the discussion should take place over the phone. Don’t break up with someone in a way that will harm his or her self-esteem.

Tip #3

Try to gage the reaction of the other person. You know this person because you have been involved with them. Do your best to anticipate their reaction so you can diffuse anger as much as possible. It is already a difficult situation so end the relationship as easy as you can. It is important to anticipate the effect this breakup with have on the other person. Allow them the respect of hearing them express hurt or disappointment but do now wallow in sorrow with them.

Allow this person time to vent and to process what is happening. Denial often occurs. Put on your best listening ears and be compassionate. Try to redirect any hysterical outburst and try to keep things calm. This process is going to hard on both of you but you owe it to yourself and the other person to do it properly. If things get out of control, inform the other person that you are not trying to be rude, and excuse yourself until clearer heads prevail. Your goal should be to end your relationship amicably.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker, a matchmaker in Los Angeles and a executive matchmaker


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