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First Date Conversation Tips–From An Executive Matchmaker

You may read all the first date conversation tips that your brain can accommodate and still wind up alone at the end of the day, with no hopes of a second date. If this is true, what is the key to making this first date a smashing success?

Here are a few first date conversation tips, to ensure that your dates run smoothly from now on…

• Avoid Awkward Silences
You don’t have to quote Plato to impress and keep the conversation going. The key here is to be observant, of her, of the people around you and of your environment. There are tons of things that you can talk about, for example:

o You can share the highs and lows of your day.
o You can talk about the music that’s playing and ask her what her favorite music is. From this alone you can share your favorite bands, the concerts the two of you have been to and any other memorable experiences associated to such events.
o You can talk about your community, sports, current events,
o Say something nice about what she’s wearing. If it’s something really unique, you can ask her about it and what it means to her.

• Listen to what she’s saying so you can follow it up with related comments or questions.
This is probably one of the most significant first date conversation tips that you should keep in mind. Learn how to listen. Don’t be a chatterbox! Women like men who pay attention. This gives them a notion that they’re talking to someone who understands where they’re coming from and eventually gives them a sense of connection.

WARNING: While listening to her makes you a nice guy, there’s a downfall to too much niceties-you won’t turn them on. You don’t want to be labeled as some nice guy she went out with and would like to keep for a friend, do you? So how do you prevent this from happening? Here’s a brief overview:

– You can touch her more. Randomly (but subtly) touch her arms, hands, brush your shoulder against hers and so on.

– Be the alpha male – make the decision, lead her and be protective of her. Never appear unsure of yourself by giving out “maybe” for an answer. Instead, a straight yes or no would be preferable.

• Keep the Topics Light and Fun
One of the first date conversation tips that I always tell my friends is to avoid drama. The first date is not the right time to do this, not even on the second, third or fourth date.

Stay within the boundaries of fun and light-hearted conversations. Talk about your neighbor’s dog, a funny encounter with a stranger, the day you found out your boss is gay and so on.

Warning: Stay away from jokes with sexual innuendos unless she couldn’t stay an inch away from you.

• Know when to transition to a new conversational topic.
Don’t force the topic if it’s not going anywhere. You don’t want to spend the rest of the night pursuing a conversation that feels like you’re dragging your house up a hill.

You can proceed to the next thing that catches your eyes or ask her if she has any exciting plans this coming weekend. Let her talk about it, while you listen intently and inject comments or questions once in a while.

• Keep the date short.
Just because you’re feeling major sparks all around doesn’t mean you should talk all night long. The key is to keep her wanting more; she couldn’t get enough of you. If you follow these first date conversation tips, a second date wouldn’t be a problem.

Nicole Westwood is an upscale matchmaker, a matchmaker in Los Angeles and a executive matchmaker

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