You’ve been dating steadily for quite a while now, and you’d like to think he’s falling in love with you. But how do you know for sure? You don’t feel comfortable asking him directly, so you end up trying, yourself, to find out how to tell if he really loves you. Here are three ways to help find the answer.
#1 – Does the relationship center on him?
If you’re finding that everything you do is what he wants to do; if he talks only about himself and his interests and never asks about yours, you can be pretty sure he’s only in love with himself. He may know how to show you a good time, but it’s unlikely he’ll be ready to have a real relationship with you or anyone else anytime soon.
Even if he makes the relationship all about you, it could be a danger sign. For a relationship to work, it has to be about both of the people involved. If a man truly loves a woman, he will try to please her, but also expect her to please him in return.
#2 – Is he there for you in a crisis?
If a man really loves you, he’ll be there for you when things go wrong – even if it’s uncomfortable or inconvenient. If you have a bad day, does he offer his shoulder to cry on? If you have an ongoing problem does he try to help you solve it? Does he let you unload when you just want to rant and rave? If he does love you, he’ll take you at your worst as well as at your best.
#3 – Does he talk about the future?
When he talks about the future does he appear to envision a future that includes you? Whether or not he’s ready to make a long-term commitment, he’ll use the word “us” or “we” when he discusses future events if he’s falling in love. That’s a pretty good way to answer the question of “how to tell if he really loves me”.